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Today is the first day of classes at my place of work, and I'm still a little startled, somehow, about the transition from the laziness of August (when there's almost no one on campus except those of us who have 12 month contracts) to the bustle of the school year. (I have also hit my seasonal "my lungs hate September" moment, so I am not at my best, which is not exactly helping. It's been a very damp summer, and my mold allergies, they are complaining.)
Because of how I spent Saturday, I think this week, I'm going to snag an ideajjhunter brought up a month or so ago, of wanting to talk about relationships, and how to go about finding them or making the most of them.
Not just the romantic ones, but mentoring ones, friendships, teacher and student, parent and child, siblings, colleagues, and all the things that make communities and connections and the families we choose and the ones we don't and connections we make and the ones we don't.
(Why this week? Because I spent Saturday out with some awesome women, met via striking up a conversation in a restaurant in February. We all had a blast, but one of the things we've talked about a lot is how rare those kinds of friendships are in their lives. I have a *lot more* of that kind of interaction than the other four, but most of it is online and separated by distance.)
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Today is the first day of classes at my place of work, and I'm still a little startled, somehow, about the transition from the laziness of August (when there's almost no one on campus except those of us who have 12 month contracts) to the bustle of the school year. (I have also hit my seasonal "my lungs hate September" moment, so I am not at my best, which is not exactly helping. It's been a very damp summer, and my mold allergies, they are complaining.)
Because of how I spent Saturday, I think this week, I'm going to snag an idea
jjhunter brought up a month or so ago, of wanting to talk about relationships, and how to go about finding them or making the most of them. Not just the romantic ones, but mentoring ones, friendships, teacher and student, parent and child, siblings, colleagues, and all the things that make communities and connections and the families we choose and the ones we don't and connections we make and the ones we don't.
(Why this week? Because I spent Saturday out with some awesome women, met via striking up a conversation in a restaurant in February. We all had a blast, but one of the things we've talked about a lot is how rare those kinds of friendships are in their lives. I have a *lot more* of that kind of interaction than the other four, but most of it is online and separated by distance.)
A few final notes
As noted, the basic thing here is 'leave the conversation better than you found it, or at least not worse'. The FAQ has more help with your choices for comment (DW account, OpenID account, or anonymously) if you need a hand. Or ask, and someone (likely me, but maybe not) will be along to help. We'll work everything else out as we go.
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Date: 2013-09-05 03:03 am (UTC)I also - I try more and more to let my relationships with people be what they are. (I might decide that that's not where I spend my energy, or spend it often - or other stuff might get in the way) But I like myself and my life better when I'm not fighting to make the relationships fit a specific mold.
(This is, um, how I have friends I geek specific things with, and friends I IM, and friends I don't, and friends I almost never see, and friends I'll pick up with like we talked five minutes ago, even when it's been a year since we saw each other in person. And it's all good, y'know, 'cause friends.)