But then I remember that I spend most of my social time in geek-friendly spaces (where larger women are not uncommon, and which for all their flaws, generally don't attract men who think they know more about your body than you do. Or at least, usually don't talk about it to you.)
This is interesting if generally true, because I have met plenty of geek men--not ones who are currently friends of mine, mind you--who were perfectly sure they knew more about my body than I did, and were willing to share at great and uninvited length.
For example, the people who responded to my journal posts several years back when an illness had knocked me down into the "medically underweight" bracket and I was talking about trying to gain some weight back? And who wanted to tell me how much I would regret gaining weight ever under any circumstances and how much I should want to stay as thin as possible? Geek men.
Geek men who got their asses handed to them. But still.
I love my tribe, but this is not one of the ways in which I would have assessed it as being more functional for women like me. Which does not contradict your point but is an interesting side note to it.
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Date: 2009-07-29 03:15 am (UTC)This is interesting if generally true, because I have met plenty of geek men--not ones who are currently friends of mine, mind you--who were perfectly sure they knew more about my body than I did, and were willing to share at great and uninvited length.
For example, the people who responded to my journal posts several years back when an illness had knocked me down into the "medically underweight" bracket and I was talking about trying to gain some weight back? And who wanted to tell me how much I would regret gaining weight ever under any circumstances and how much I should want to stay as thin as possible? Geek men.
Geek men who got their asses handed to them. But still.
I love my tribe, but this is not one of the ways in which I would have assessed it as being more functional for women like me. Which does not contradict your point but is an interesting side note to it.