Your last paragraph reminds me of ... well, a lot of things I've dealt with.
I was really startled by something when I stopped wearing hearing aids and started having to tell people how much I was lipreading and how that could work. There were some friends whose reaction was dismay that I hadn't told them before how hard it was so that they could help. It turned out that my default assumptions about people not wanting to be bothered were not always so. (Sometimes they have been. But finding out how much some people really are glad to work together on stuff was revelatory.) But I might never have done it if I hadn't needed to stop wearing the hearing aids for other medical reasons.
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Date: 2013-06-12 03:08 pm (UTC)I was really startled by something when I stopped wearing hearing aids and started having to tell people how much I was lipreading and how that could work. There were some friends whose reaction was dismay that I hadn't told them before how hard it was so that they could help. It turned out that my default assumptions about people not wanting to be bothered were not always so. (Sometimes they have been. But finding out how much some people really are glad to work together on stuff was revelatory.) But I might never have done it if I hadn't needed to stop wearing the hearing aids for other medical reasons.
It's still tricky.
:offers solidarity on the twitchy stuff: