I will gladly take links to such if you have them handy.

There are some issues with disability(ish), energy and ability levels, and Sig. Other's anxieties (possibly in relation to how zie's last relationship ended) that I didn't mention in the original that can result in things getting done only when I can do them, as well as my own hangups about wanting to be helpful and useful and the real or perceived guilt-tripping involved with taking on tasks versus taking me time.

It's more than just It's Complicated.